Sunday, April 20, 2008

Date Update

I know you guys have all been on pins and needles waiting for this update LOL :)

Well, we got an enormous amount of snow (yes, SNOW) the last few days so I was extremely worried about the drive I had to make Saturday morning to meet M. I started out.. got about 30 minutes away and then decided NO WAY can I make this drive. I was passing car after car in the ditch and while I felt like I could probably make it to Drumheller, I was more worried about the drive home later that night. So, I called M and he offered to come all the way to Calgary (cuz he's sweet like that). We met at the mall and we had lunch and just hung out... I had the little ones with me (because remember, we were originally supposed to go to the Dinosaur museum). Things were very comfortable, just like they had been on the phone. After a while, we brought the little ones back home so my mom could babysit. Yep, he even met both of my parents already. We went to a late afternoon movie and dinner afterwards. Honestly, it was a great day... and I think that things worked out for the best with the changing of plans. There was some really nice hand holding, cuddling at the movie and quite a few little kisses snuck in there. It was really... well, nice.

So how do I feel now? Well, this is something that I feel really badly even to admit. He was a little heavier in person than in the pics that I had seen of him. That's really not the end of the world because obviously I have weight to lose as well. His style was well... lacking, but again, not a huge deal because he knows he has no style LOL and it's nothing a few shopping trips couldn't fix. And really, how often is it that you find someone who's personality so completely meshes with yours? We have so many things in common that it's almost freaky. Our beliefs and values are very much alligned.

In the truck just before he dropped me off at home, he asked me if I was his girlfriend. I kind of giggled when he asked because it sounded a little junior high school-ish but sweet at the same time. I said yes.

I used to be so attracted to the "bad" boy. M is definitely so not. He is so "good" that I've found myself questioning if he is for real. I'm feeling a little bit of an internal struggle within myself.... actually I dumped my first boyfriend (who was also a "good" boy) because he was too nice. Why would I possibly want to be with someone who was not nice? I don't know... and I realize that I'm jumping a little ahead of myself and should just be taking this one thing at a time and seeing what happens. M has made it very clear that what he's looking for is for a good woman to marry, basically just to love and look after. He wants a couple kids, the minivan, the camping family vacations, the picket fence... you get the picture. That's what I want too... at some point.

(I wrote all of the above last night and am finishing this Monday morning)

To be truthful, I really don't know how I feel at the moment. Nice is good... but I want more than that. I'm feeling a little shallow because what if he had been 50 lbs thinner? Would I feel differently then? I just don't know. And, I guess I don't really need to know right now. We'll see what happens.


Erin said...

Thank goodness you FINALLY let us know what happened. He sounds like a really nice guy. I have the same ptoblem though the physical attraction is important too! Maybe you can date each other and work on losing the weight together...

I have no idea what I'm talking about and I hope you know that!!! LOL

Heather said...

not at all (shallow that is). Its funny because as overweight as I was, I definitely was not attacted to overweight men. my boyfriend is thin and muscular and I would be upset if he gained weight, how sad is that for me to say!? so we all have those little things about us, the things that we cant help but like or not like, so I woudlnt beat yourself up about it. get to know him more and see how you feel.

Carolyn said...

Hmmm interesting. I have NEVER dated a fat guy... it's part of the physical attraction component. For instance, my friend only dates guys that are pretty big... or my other buddy that only goes for black guys.. it's just part of the attraction. Tall, short, hairy, blonde, fat, etc. It's all part of that mix.
I would just take it a day at a time... sometimes you might be surprised what you grow to love!
Keep up the running - man. I wish I kept going! Right now, a half hour is pushing it again for me.. yeck!

40 by 40 said...

I was wondering how it glad you posted on it! He sounds really great. Nice is good..having a good time together is good..just see where it goes? Good luck and enjoy.

Hanlie said...

I'm glad it went well... You obviouly need to get to know one another, because relationships are built on familiarity and trust (and a good dose of chemistry). The problem I have had in the past with a fat husband was that I ended up putting on weight (the same happened to my friend), so you have to find out what his views are about food and exercise. There's a whole lot to learn about one another!